人

人。。。是种什么生物？

与人相处就像是参加化妆舞会

所有的表情和情绪隐藏在不同华丽的面具下

你永远看不清他人真实的一面

但是有一件可以肯定的是，

对他人保持戒心可以保护自己

我们会背叛所有人，但是我们永远不会背叛自己

现在的世界是如此的悲哀

人与人之间不再存有信任

到底是这个世界的错，还是。。。人类的错？

谁。。。能给我一个答案呢？

Live Life Today To The Fullest

Do not look back and ponder

Over what might have been,

Nor be troubled about the years ahead for they have yet to come,

Live life today to the fullest and make it beautiful so that it will be worth remembering.

Don't Worry Be Happy

One of the biggest burdens of Man must be his worries. His inclination to dwell on and "catastrophize", if you will, almost everything, usually matters he can do precious little about. On few other things do we waste such a great amount of time and energy.

Today, let's examine a few of the main worries of life and see just how futile it is to worry about them.

To varying extents, we're all afraid of aging. No one feels good about creasing skin, and graying or thinning hair. But if you've been in contact with enough senior persons, you'll realize that their appearance is just a shell. Their personality and energy are what shines through. There's nothing you can do to stop the effect of time on your looks, but you can adopt habits that can slow down the aging process. And develop such an attractive and vivacious personality that your looks become secondary.

Money is another big worry of life. We've all been conditioned to believe that we can't survive without money. But what's our definition of survival? In an age and society such as ours, it's not just about filling our stomachs and shelter from the elements. To us, surviving means being able to afford the good things in life. How many so-called "poor" people in Singapore and in other developed countries own TVs, mobile phones, air-conditioners, and even cars? How much money we need is a point of view. Many people who are far from being cash-strapped worry about money. But just think about how many things you spend your money on that you don't really need. Change the way you see money and you'll find yourself more comfortable with your financial status.

We also tend to worry about our relationships - and too often, it's our very insecurity that strains them. Suspicion can ruin a relationship by focusing on its apparent flaws and ignoring its strengths. Besides, worrying takes away from enjoying your relationship in the present. You may not realize it, but dwelling on negative emotions in a relationship is the surest way to kill it, not fading romance, not children, not work. Relationships are best maintained by filling them with blissful emotions. Always remember what made you fall in love with your partner or spouse. And use that to defuse any potential conflict.

And finally? Death. The ultimate worry, the Great Leveller, the one that comes to everyone, rich or poor, young or old, healthy or sick. Death can come at any place and at any time. It's not your choice when and how it happens, but if you think about it, no one deserves any more life than what we now possess. Every moment we're alive is one more than we deserve. Every breath is a bonus. Just think of all the children who die everyday from malnutrition and war. Do you deserve to live while they deserve death? Take every moment you're alive as a bonus.

希望

要前往未来是需要努力的

这世界上没有不劳而获能得到的东西

只有展开步伐才能走向未来， 看到希望

但是当你绝望时， 不妨看看过去， 看看自己的失败

它会告诉你， 希望其实就在你的前方。。。

有时候你没有办法选择你想要的

但你想要的时候， 它会给你选择吗？

遇见机会时，就要紧紧抓牢

否则， 就算你想要选择它，它也不会再选择你。。。

Trust In A Relationship

Most of us have had to deal with jealousy at some point of time in our relationship.

Jealousy, in small doses can boost your relationship by making you see how desirable your partner is. But when one lets it become an all consuming envy, it can spell trouble for your relationship. If not kept in check, it could well be the end of the road for you and your partner.

Jealousy occurs when one feels that something important is being threatened. It is natural to become attached to a certain person. But when this emotion becomes excessive, problems arise. Even more so when it is unfounded. This often results in the person you care about being driven away - the exact opposite of what you wanted to achieve in the first place.

In some cases people have a valid reason to be jealous — for instance, if one has had a partner cheat on them in the past or even if one's parents were not faithful to each other. In such cases, jealousy is the byproduct of fear of such an event repeating itself, and is not unnatural.

Fear, insecurity and low confidence in oneself are the main culprits. When one feels that they don't deserve their partner they start looking for a reason to back this feeling up. They put their partner on a pedestal and are afraid that they will be abandoned if their partner ever walks out on them.

This destructive emotion benefits no one. It isolates the person who is feeling the emotion by making him/her even more suspicious and resentful. The other partner too finds it difficult to continue a relationship with someone who is so suspicious all the time and this often drives them away.

If you have a history of troubled relationships and are constantly insecure, you might need to take stock of your relationship. Here's how to deal with the issue:

Do you feel like you are on a much lower level than your partner? That they are too good for you and could easily leave you for someone else? In this case, you first need to work on your own sense of self-worth. Your partner cannot resolve your esteem issues. This is something you will have to handle yourself.

Does your entire life revolve around your partner and the things the two of you do together? If so, you need to get a life outside of your relationship. Explore other hobbies, make new friends and make time for existing friends and for yourself. Such 'you' time will ensure that your partner does not feel smothered with you.

While mild jealousy is normal, excessive jealousy is problematic and its time you faced up to it. If you have become obsessive and extremely possessive of your partner, it shows a lack of trust in the relationship.
Talk things over and consider getting professional help like couple therapy. Evaluate your relationship and see if it is really right and good for you.

Quotes About Life

If you love life, life will love you back.

If you can't accept losing, you can't win.

Use your imagination not to scare yourself to death but to inspire yourself to life.

The giant oak is an acorn that held its ground.

He that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast.

People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes.

Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light.

Man has never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.

If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down.

You can only find truth with logic if you have already found truth without it.

Two kinds of people on earth can be seen: the people who lift and the people who lean.

It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.

When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

If you make it plain you like people, it's hard for them to resist liking you back.

Someone's sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.

One of the secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks.

The most damaging phrase in the language is: "It's always been done that way."

進入公司前后*

*進入公司前*

老闆：萬分歡迎，沒有你我們的公司肯定大不一樣！

職員：如果工作太累，搞不好我會辭職的

老闆：放心，我不會讓這樣的事情發生的！

職員：我週休二日可以休息嗎？

老闆：當然了！這是底線！

職員：平時會天天加班到淩晨嗎？

老闆：不可能，誰告訴你的？

職員：有餐費補貼嗎？

老闆：還用說嗎，絕對比同行都高！

職員：有沒有工作猝死的風險？

老闆：不會！你怎麼會有這種念頭？

職員：公司會定期組織旅遊嗎？

老闆：這是我們的明文規定！

職員：那我需要準時上班嗎？

老闆：不，看情況吧

職員：工資呢？會準時發嗎？

老闆：一向如此！

職員：事情全是新員工做嗎？

老闆：怎麼可能，你上頭還有很多資深同事！

職員：如果管理職位有空缺，我可以參與競爭嗎？

老闆：毫無疑問，這是我們公司賴以生存的機制！

職員：你不會是在騙我吧？


進 *入公司後,

請 "由下逐一往上讀 "*

Valentines Day Poems

Valentine's Day is a day of love

Where love is as bright as the sun

We share kisses, and even a hug

With people we call our loved ones

Unrequited love is oh! so harsh

When the one you love doesn't love you

You feel you're left standing in the dark

Wishing this reality were untrue

Well that's why Valentine's Day is so great

It encourages you to show you care

It makes you just wanna say I love you and will always be there

I once loved someone in this way

And I was encouraged on Valentine's I went up to him, just to say I would like you to be mine

Is Love a Decision or an Emotion ???

Emotion
Love is an emotion. It is an uncontrollable emotion. So many times
you fall in love with a person knowing that maybe they aren't the one for you
but yet you still can't run from the feeling in your heart. If love was a
decision, then you would be free to walk away... but since it's an emotion,
you just can't walk away from your heart that easily.


You can't pick and choose who you fall in love with, no matter what
people think. You may try hard not to fall in love with someone, for
whatever reason, but if that person is emotionally/physically attractive
to you...there's nothing you can do. Fate takes over. But it is also
a special something that connects two people in a unique way.



It may require decisions along the way, but it's something that
comes from the bottom of your heart and you can't change it for the world.
And when you're in love, there's not a thing you can do to stop it. You can never decide to fall out of love, even when you want to, or think you want to !!!



If you really love someone and that person breaks off the relationship,
you will have a difficult time dealing with it. Your mind won't be
able to get over the emotion. You might say that you no longer love that
person but your heart will go on loving that person just the same. You may
not be able to ever go back to the relationship with the one who hurt you, but
there will always be fond memories of the one you loved.



To love someone because of money,
or physical attraction is not true love. True love can ride out
the storms of life and is willing to make sacrifices.




Decision
To love is to accept, to understand, to maturely will to be
together unconditionally/to share... Infatuation, romance, sexual highs,
crushes, good impressions, and the like are the emotions that humans
confuse with love!



Love, true love, is essentially a decision. It is a commitment to
another that must be mentally made. However, love also causes emotions
that can make your heart, mind, body & soul soar above the clouds. Love
can be emotion but is empty without the commitment.




The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid
and deeds left undone.
Dun regret only when you lose what you treasure.......





Happy Valentine's Day !!!!!!

Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love is something beautiful , a desire
A feeling that one would like to catch.
Love is the feeling that makes you feel alive.
Love is something that may never go away!


May God fill your home & forever with love, love & love, 365 days a year.....

Happy Valentine's Day My Friends !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy Valentine Day To All. Enjoy Ur Weekends. :)

爱与被爱

爱与被爱...你选择哪一种呢?

被爱真的很幸福

或许你心里会这么想,对吗?

但是你有好好爱过一个人吗?

尽情的爱一个人,试过吗?

爱一个人或许会让你受尽委屈

也或许会让你受伤

但是,换个角度想

如果你没有尽情爱过

你会知道被爱有多幸福吗?

人...要有付出过,才知道爱情的可贵

如果...你得到的话,好好珍惜哦

得到再失去,你会比没有爱过更痛苦...

情人节到了

情人节到了，

男友问女友：你喜欢什么花？

女友羞答答道：我喜欢两种花。

男友急切的问：哪两种？我送给你！

女友低头小声说：有钱花，尽管花！

祝你情人节快乐

Always Think Positive In Life

Read this.

It is a 100% challenge that you will have a wrong answer to the question asked in the passage.

Once there was loving couple travelling in a bus in a mountainous area.

They decided to get down at some place.

After the couple got down at some place the bus moved on.

As the bus moved on, a huge rock fell on the bus from the mountain and crushed the bus to crumbs.

Everybody on board was killed.

The couple upon seeing that said, "We wished we were on that bus."

Why do you think they said that?

If they had remained on the bus instead of deciding to get down, the
resulting time delay could have been avoided and the rock would have
fallen after the bus had passed.

Always think positive in life and look for opportunities when you can help others.

Many times in life, the opposite of success is not failure, it is quitting.

Winners never quit, quitters never win.

Never expect things to happen.
Struggle and make them happen.

Never expect yourself to be given a good value.
Create a value of your own.

One Person Who Means So Much To You

There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future doesn't seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...

Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company ... You never fail until you stop trying.

One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girl's parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed...and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle... therefore she had chosen to leave him.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again...he can take some of those back with him...

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

The guy just wept...The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her ever again.........hope you understand.

Find time to realise that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you.

Giving To Receive

The most difficult time to be generous is when we ourselves are feeling poor. While some of us have experienced actually being in the red financially, there are those of us who would feel broke even if we had a million dollars in the bank. Either way, as the old adage goes, it is always in giving that we receive. Meaning that when we are living in a state of lack, the very gesture we may least want to give is the very act that could help us create the abundance that we seek. One way to practice generosity is to give energy where it is needed. Giving money to a cause or person in need is one way to give energy. Giving attention, love, or a smile to another person are other acts of giving that we can offer. After all, there are people all over the world that are hungry for love.

Sometimes when we practice generosity, we practice it conditionally. We might be expecting to "receive back" from the person to whom we gave. We might even become angry or resentful if that person doesn't reciprocate. However, trust in the natural flow of energy, and you will find yourself practicing generosity with no strings attached. This is the purest form of giving. Remember that what you send out will always come back you. Selflessly help a friend in need without expecting them to return the same favor in the same way, and know that you, too, will receive that support from the universe when you need it. Besides, while giving conditionally creates stress (because we are waiting with an invisible balance sheet to receive our due), giving unconditionally creates and generates abundance. We give freely, because we trust that there is always an unlimited supply.

Being aware of how much we are always supported by the universe is one of the keys to abundance and generosity. Consciously remember the times you've received support from expected and unexpected sources. Remember anyone who has helped you when you've needed it most, and bless all situations that come into your life for the lessons and gifts they bring you. Remember that all things given and received emanate from generosity. Giving is an act of gratitude. Plant the seeds of generosity through your acts of giving, and you will grow the fruits of abundance for yourself and those around you.

Everyone Is Important

A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package.

"What food might this contain?" The mouse wondered - he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap. Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning."There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"

The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."

The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, but said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray.
Be assured you are in my prayers."

The mouse turned to the cow and said, "There is a mousetrap in the house!
There is a mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse. I'm sorry for you, but it's no skin off my nose."

So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap-- alone.

That very night a sound was heard throughout the house -- like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer's wife.

The farmer rushed her to the hospital and she returned home with a fever.
Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient. But his wife's sickness continued, so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock.

To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer's wife did not get well; she died. So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them. The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.

So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn't concern you, remember -- when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk. We are all involved in this journey called life. We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.

Remember:
Each of us is a vital thread in another person's tapestry;
Our lives are woven together for a reason.

One of the best things to hold onto in this world is a friend.

About Our Life

Today we have a bigger house, and smaller families, more conveniences but LESS TIME.

We have more degrees, but less commonsense, more knowledge, but LESS JUDGMENT.

We have more expert, but less problems, more medicine but less wellness.
We spend too much recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast,
Get to angry too quickly, stay up too late, read too little, watch TV too much,
And PRAY TOO SElDOM.

We have multiplied our possessions but reduce our values, we talk too much,
love too little, and lie too often.
We have learn how to make a living but not a life, we’ve add YEARS TO LIFE,
NOT LIFE TO YEARS.

We have a taller building, but shorter tempers, wide freeway, but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more but have less happy, we buy more but enjoy it less.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the ST.
to meet our neighbors. We’ve conquered outer space but not inner space.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, learn less, plan more, but
accomplish less. We have learn to rush, but not to wait, have higher income, lower morals.
We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies,
But WE HAVE LESS COMMUNICATIONS.

We have more selections of fast food, but less nutrition.
We have fancies house, but broken house, two incomes but more divorces.
That’s why we don’t kept anything for special occasions, because everyday you life is a special day.
Search for more knowledge, read more, sit on our front porch and admire the view without
paying attention to your needs. Spend more time with our families and friends. Eat our favorite
foods, and visit the place that you love. Life is a chain of ENJOYMENT NOT ONLY ABOUT
THE SURVIVAL.

Tell your families and friends how much you love them.

Don’t delay anything that added laughter and joy to our life…….

LOVE

"Love (at least the thing to which human beings give that name) is especially looked upon as an imperious master whose caprices one cannot evade, who strikes you as he pleases and compels you to obey him whether you like it or not.
In the name of love the worst crimes have been perpetrated, the wildest follies committed.
And yet, man has invented all kinds of moral and social rules hoping to control this force of love, to make it sober and docile. These rules, however seem to have been made only to be broken and the restraint they impose upon its free activity seems only to increase its explosive power.
For it is not by rules that the movements of love can be governed. Only a greater, higher and truer power of love can master the uncontrollable impulses of love.
Love alone can rule over love by illumining, transforming and enlarging it. For here also, more than anywhere else, control consists not in suppressing and abolishing, but in transmuting through a sublime alchemy.
This is because, of all forces acting in the universe, love is the most powerful, the most irresistible; without love the world would fall back into the chaos of inconscience.
Consciousness is indeed the creator of the universe, but love is its saviour"

Mirra Alfassa
The Four Austerities and the Four Liberations

Look Forward

As you travel through life, there are always those times
When decisions just have to be made;
When the choices are hard and solutions seem scarce,
And the rain seems to soak your parade.

There are some situations where all you can do
Is to simply let go and move on,
Gather courage together and choose a direction
That carries you toward a new dawn.

So pack up your troubles and take a step forward-
The process of change can be tough,
But think about all the excitement ahead,
If you can be stalwart enough.

There could be adventures you never imagined
Just waiting around the next bend -
And wishes and dreams just about to come true
In ways you can't yet comprehend.

Perhaps you'll find friendships that spring from new interests
As you challenge your status quo,
And you learn there are so many options in life
And so many ways you can grow.

Perhaps you'll go places you never expected
And see things you've never seen -
Or travel to fabulous far-away worlds
And wonderful spots in between.

Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caring -
A "somebody special" who's there
To help you stay centered and listen with interest
To stories and feelings you share.

Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friends
Are supportive of all that you do -
And believe that whatever decisions you make,
They'll be the right choices for you.

So keep putting one foot in front of the other,
And taking your life day by day.
There's a brighter tomorrow that's just down the road,
Don't look back, you're not going that way.

通道

生活是一条长长的通道，

可能遇见很多人，

也可能发生很了多事情；

没有应不应该，

也没有值不值得；

心肠越硬走得路程越好。

Be Happy

1. Stay positive, let go of negative feelings.

2. Count your blessings.

3. Look at the funny side of a situation.

4. Share your feelings with your loved ones.

5. Make time for yourself to have fun.

6. Let the other person win sometimes.

7. Decide to be happy.

Make up your mind to be happy & learn to find pleasure in simple things.

Make the best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don't think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.

You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism worry you.

Don't let your neighbours set your standards. Be yourself.

Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt. Never borrow trouble.

Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones.

Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy; avoid people who make us unhappy.

Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about new places.

Don't hold postmortems.

Don't spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes.

Don't be one who never gets over things. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.

Some Great Friendship Messages!!!!!!!!!!

Friendship is not a game to play, It is not a word to say,
It doesn't start on March and ends on May,
It is tomorrow, yesterday, today and everyday.


Age appears to be best in some things.
Old wood best to burn.
Old books best to read.
Old rice best to eat and
Old friends best to keep.


True friends are like mornings, You cant have them the whole day,
but you can be sure, they will be there when you wakeup tomorrow, next year and forever.


As long as we have memories, yesterday remains;
as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits.
As long as we have Friendship, each day is never a waste.


Friendship is a Priceless gift that can't be Bought or Sold,
But to have an Understanding Friend is far more worth than Gold.


Don't ever be angry on your friends...
Because at the last moments of our life,
We remember not the words of our enemies...
but the silence of our Friends....


Friendship is a promise
made in the heart,
Unbreakable by distance,
unchangeable by time.


When you ask God for gift,
Do not ask for diamonds, pearls or riches,
But the love and companionship of real true friends
And be thankful if he sends you at least one.


Friends are those who take care without any hesitation,
Who remember you without limitation and
Who love you without any communication.



A friend gives hope when life is low,
A friend is a place when you have nowhere to go,
A friend is honest, a friend is true.
A friend is precious a friend is you.



Friendship is a silent gift of nature..
More old .. more strong..
More deep.. more clear..
More close.. more warm..
Less words.. more understanding..


Friendship is a language spoken by heart...
not written on paper, not given by pledge...
it is a promise renewed every time we keep in touch...


Have A Beautiful Weekend My Friends !!!

Self-Confidence

Very often, before other people will start to have faith in you, you need to have confidence in your own abilities. Self-confidence is a very powerful state of mind that other people quickly notice and easily respect. So how can you develop a high-level of self-confidence?

Consider these steps:

First, choose to concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses. Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. If you have trouble doing this, write down ten positive things about yourself. People often find it very helpful to actually see the words.

Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons why you should love yourself and believe in yourself. Give yourself credit for every successful or good thing that you do.

Next, remind yourself of past successes. Confidence builds on past success. The more you do this, the more convinced you'll be that it's possible to succeed again. Most people unfortunately can't help focusing on what they did wrong in the past. This failure to forget and let go damages their self-confidence.

Also, learn to take risks. Risk is a crucial part of life; it is necessary before any great success can be achieved. If you spend your life avoiding risk, you'll never experience all that life has to offer.

Cultivate an enthusiasm for trying out new things. Once you get past that initial barrier, you'll find that it's very empowering. Yes, you will fail sometimes but the lessons and experiences are invaluable. As you do and try more, your confidence level increases because you realise that you become more and more knowledgeable. Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose.

Next, use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can't do everything perfectly; that it's only possible to do your best.

And visualize your future success. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. What will your future look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like? Who will be with you, and where will you be? How will you be feeling? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence!

The Delivery Of The Father's Love

The delivery of the Father's love

The delivery of the Father's Love into our heart and life will come when we worship Him being reconcilled to Him by the precious blood of the Lamb of God, Jesus Christ. Then He will allow us to enter in the Holy of Holies, His Throne Room.

When we come into His Presence crying out to Him with all our heart; He will hear us and send to us His Love and add to us an abundance of so many things! Like a kind parent, He will seek to find us. He will woo us and surround us with Himself - bringing to us abounding love, kindness, forgiveness and long suffering...

Let us walk with Him today and every day. Let us allow His Spirit to enter into our spirit, soul and mind. As we tell Him often of our deep desire to walk in His fellowship and love, we shall become more and more an instrument of His Love in this earth.

Take heart and know that when He sees in our heart the desire to be purified; He will come and cleanse our heart and fill our whole life anew with Himself! There is no greater gift of Love than this, brethren, than His love!

Never Stop Believing In Yourself

Never stop believing in yourself.

When others doubt you, you do not.

Do what you love to do,

No one knows better than you.

Life is too short to live others' dreams.

Follow your own dream.

Push yourself to reach your goals,

And live the life you once dreamed.

Trust your instincts.

Be true to yourself.

You know what is right for you.

Never give up or give in.

Forget the words "I don't know how".

You can learn,

You can research,

You can do.

Your mind is powerful.

When you believe you can.

You will find a way,

You won't waste a day.

Persist and persevere,

Do not fear.

Because if you believe in yourself,

You will find dreams can come true.

May all your dreams turn into goals,

Believe in yourself.

And remember, all of life is a choice.

The decision is up to you.

25 Things

Rules: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you!


1) I want to be like a Chio Bu.

2) I want to live in a very very big big big bangalow.

3) I want to have a car.

4) I like F4.

5) I love Jesus.

6) I'm a Roman Catholic converted to Christian since 2002.

7) I love shopping.

8) I hate online dating.

9) I hate guys who propose marriage on MSN.

10) I miss school days.

11) I want to have a peaceful life.

12) My mum teach me a lesson call LIFE.

13) My mum oso teach me to cherish n treasure ppl ard me.

14) I miss my mum.

15) I cry when I think of my mum.

16) I want to live life to the fullest.

17) I like Korean Cuisine.

18) I like Precious Moment stuffs.

19) I like Hello Kitty.

20) I hope my grandparents will live till 100 years.

21) I like to watch Korean n HongKong Dramas.

22) I like to watch Interior Design n DIY shows.

23) I like to read Self-Improvement books.

24) I want to be happy everyday.

25) I HATE Mosquitoes.

Choosing A Life Partner

For singles, a good article before you get married.

Some thoughts...

A relationship coach lays out his 5 Golden Rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term success.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr/Ms Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date.

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come.

Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone.
You need a lot more.

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important?
Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone.

What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and
jog together?
You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life – bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is Trust! i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.

A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person.

How can you test? Here are some suggestions.
1. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?
2. Are they serious about improving themselves?

A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing".

"So, ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? "

Usually, a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing.

You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following:
1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc?
2. How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
3. Do they show respect?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them!
4. Do they gossip and speak badly about others?
Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the
intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married.

As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage... for the worse!"
If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.
It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?

The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on "I get a warm, wonderful feeling whenever we're together and I want to have that warm wonderful feeling forever, so let's go get married".

Feelings, as we have discussed, have no logic on their own. They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need considerable assistance from your brain.

Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time to spend with one person. This person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you and go on vacation with you. More important yet, this person will share your children.

You need to choose wisely.

The decision should not be made based on feelings alone. You need to ask yourself some tough questions. The decisions have to be made on solid considerations.

Will this person be a good partner? Is she mature enough to put her own selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family?
Is he prepared to be a good provider? What is his track record? Is he responsible enough to get a good job and keep it?

Will this person be a good parent? Can you stand the thought of your children turning out exactly like this person? They will, you know. Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequently pick up many or most of their parents' character traits. You had better like your spouse's traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your children.

If something were to happen to you, would you completely trust this person, alone, with the task of raising and forming your children? This is not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration. Not everyone dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed.

Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young children in the care of the
other parent.

If you feel that you would need to be around to correct or lessen this
person's influence on your children, then you are considering the wrong person.

Does this person share your faith in God? God does not give us children so that we can mould them into the coolest, most popular people in school. Our job is to get them to heaven. To do that, we need to raise them believing in God. It is tough to do that if only one parent believes.

Saying "This is right and that is wrong, and I want you to ignore Mommy until you are thirty-five" does not work. Small children ask about eight million questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way toward forming the kind of adults they will become. Who will be answering those questions for your children?

Does this person you are marrying have sexual self-control? Single
people sometimes have this idea that marriage is just some kind of lifelong sex festival and that as long as they have each other, they will never be tempted by other people. Wrong!

There are many times in every marriage when one partner or the other is sexually unavailable - illness, the last months of pregnancy, travel.

There are also times when spouses, just get on each others' nerves. At times like this, other people can seem very appealing. That can be dangerous, because there are plenty of very attractive people out there who are willing to make themselves available to married men and women. Do you want someone who has never said "no" to sex? If he is not good at saying "no" at eighteen, it won't be different at forty. Do you want to worry about whether or not your Spouse is being faithful?

These are very important questions, and if you are not comfortable with all of the answers, you should definitely not marry this person.

None if this is to say that feelings play no role at all in a marriage decision. You don't have to, "Well, I suppose that you would make a good spouse and parent, so even though I don't particularly like you I guess I'll marry you."

You need to be happy and excited about the prospect of spending your life with someone. Your brain however must acknowledge that this person as a good choice. Don't listen to your heart alone or your head alone.

Wait until your heart and head agree....

时间

我的生活何时才会像以前那么顺利？

我的思想何时才会像以前那么简单？

我的情绪何时才会像以前那么平静？

我的心情何时才会像以前那么愉快？

我的眼泪何时才会化作微笑？

我的伤心何时才会化作开心？

我的失望何时才会化作希望？

我的悲观何时才会化作了管？

我需要的只是时间。

我的伤口会慢慢复原的。

我的信心会慢慢重叠。

我不需要你跟我说："加油"。

也不需要你更我说：‘不要想太多’。

其实我都懂。

只是我就是做不到

Went To Da Gu's House

Went to Da Gu's house wif my sis. We took a cab there. HaHa.... Upon reached, saw my cousin carrying my baby cousin. My baby cousin is a boy n it was 1st time seeing him ever since he was born. He is so chubbly n cute. HaHa.... We had our dinner over there n hang ard there. At ard 11pm, my cousin drove us home.

Tis was my day today. :)

Actions Speak Louder Than Words Not Words Speak Louder Than Actions.

Don't panic. I'm with you. There's no need to fear for I'm your God. I'll give you strength. I'll help you. I'll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you. Isaiah 41:10